Dating someone who is “vanilla” or outside of “the community” is slightly discombobulating. It’s not her… It’s just that i’ve become accustomed to the way we do things in our little bdsm world. We have all manner of shortcuts and buzzwords. We disclose so much about ourselves up front. When someone meets me in that community, … Continue reading
On fet the other day, someone dear to my heart shared her thoughts. She spoke of a Master she respected (one i respect as well) and how that Master spoke about how it was their task to make sure they helped slaves in their service… help them to be successful. That way of thinking is … Continue reading
A few folks on the fet side of life know what i do in my ‘vanilla’ life. Fewer still know the name my parents gave me – well, that name and the one i married into. Most folks on the fet side of life have just as much to lose as i do – by … Continue reading
i don’t want to get married. Fact is, i’ve been there done that But this country i call home said i could marry MrX because he had testicles and i had ovaries… so what if he was a violent jerk… it was a proper marriage… disastrous, though. Ah, but when J wanted to be my wife? i … Continue reading
i have heard it said that a Master cannot truly be a Master until He has mastered Himself. i believe this to be true. i’ve seen my fair share of Doms and Tops that assume superordinate roles yet who are not “Masters” (as i understand the term) whether they choose to preface their monikers with … Continue reading
They say that membership has its privileges. This has become clear to me over the last few years. Sometimes we fear inclusion… fear the scarlet letters that might be stitched to us… fear the penalties that could be levied against us. Some of use fear real physical retribution. But the membership… the belonging… does have … Continue reading
i woke this morning to thoughts of helicopters. i could explain why i had helicopters on the brain, but you really don’t care… and it would take too long… plus i’m tired, m’kay? As i gazed up at my ceiling fan, i thought again of helicopters… later, as i sat down to my computer, i … Continue reading
Today should be a fun day – a bit of a departure for me as I’ll do little work. I should do work… I need to do some work… but I’m going to try my best to limit it today. I’m heading out now for some errands and then the fun begins. I have lunch … Continue reading
The things I want to say are not flowing from my fingertips. I’ve typed, backspaced, typed, deleted… it’s getting ridiculous. What I want to say just feels too private to share – even with anonymity – so, I’ll choose to share those thoughts with the two people that matter – and share this post with … Continue reading
